A mum has spoken of her disbelief after witnessing her brother’s “callous” act just moments after announcing that her young daughter had been diagnosed with cancer.
Sharing on Reddit, the woman said that she arranged a family gathering so she could tell her loved ones about the devastating development.
But just minutes after breaking the news to her shocked family, her brother decided to announce that he too had a big announcement – that he and his wife were expecting a baby.
While the mum conceded that her brother and sister-in-law had struggled with infertility for years, she was shocked that he’d chosen that moment to tell everyone their pregnancy news.
In her post, the woman explained that her 12-year-old daughter Megan had been ill in the lead-up to her diagnosis.
“My brother and his wife suffered from not having kids for years, It impacted them greatly,” she said.
“They love the kids in the family but always wished to have kids on their own.
“Lately we got busy with Megan’s health problems. She started suffering from anemia, loss of appetite, and recurrent fevers.
“We’ve taken her to the paediatrician and from there we’ve learned that she has cancer. It was so devastating I didn’t want to tell my family right away.
“Most of them have chronic conditions and this type of news might trigger a negative reaction because they love Megan and would give everything to see her healthy. My friend suggested using Facebook but no.
“My husband and I decided to gather the family at my house this past Wednesday to announce Megan’s diagnosis.
“My aunt didn’t take it well because she holds Megan dear so she was rightfully the most devastated one.”
The mum said it was then that her sibling chose to make his big announcement.
“After few minutes of complete silence, my brother started moving in his seat saying there’s something very serious he wanted to tell everyone,” he said.
“He was hesitant but then he and wife stood up then he said they just found out they were finally expecting.
“The family were conflicted – some got up to congratulate them and some remained seated.
“I remained seated and my brother then approached me and expressed how sorry he was they had to tell us in these circumstances, but said he couldn’t wait since this is a huge deal for them after years of waiting, and because everyone was present.
“I argued with him about how he thought this was an appropriate time and asked if Megan mattered to him at all, since he didn’t take a minute to realise she was just diagnosed with cancer.
“He started reminding me of how many years he and his wife suffered from frustration and disappointment for not being able to have kids and argued that because he wasn’t able to be a father until now (he’s 37), he felt he was missing out on so much for many years.
“(He said) that I didn’t have to finally tell him ‘congratulations’ but should at least not guilt him for feeling overwhelmed and excited to finally be a father.
“He said I knew exactly how much he adores Megan and I shouldn’t even think otherwise.
“Then he said he was just sharing good news after hearing the bad news and there was nothing wrong with that.”
Not happy with his explanation, the mum said things then escalated.
“I told him and his wife to leave my house right then,” she said.
“He said he won’t argue anymore because of how tense I felt, but will expect me to apologise at some point.
“Some family agreed with me but my parents thought I shouldn’t have taken my anger out on him like that and that he’ll always remember my reaction to the news he gave and should apologise after I’ve calmed down.”
Thousands of Reddit users rallied around the mum, insisting that the brother was “callous” to make his announcement then.
“His troubles suck, yes,” said one. “I mean, as a dad of two it took us six years to get two kids. So I can relate.
“You know what is 1000x worse of not getting kids?? Have your kid diagnosed with a life-threatening disease.
“They should have waited and maybe personally call family members to give the good news a bit later when things sinked in.”
Added another: “Also I’m sure this was not his intent but to me it kind of sounds like “Oh your kid might die? Don’t worry I’ll have one soon!”
Wrote a third: “What he did was outrageously unacceptable. What an utterly selfish, self-centered, thoughtless man.”